Wedding Journey ~ Where the Sidewalk Ends

Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam…And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva…So tweasure your wuv.” ~~ the Princess Bride

I’ve been fairly MIA online – my blog, Twitter, Facebook – for months for one reason only: I’m getting married on September 5th. This year.

I had intended on cataloguing my adventure here to share with you, and to have a record to look back on and blissfully reminisce. That hasn’t happened. Not even close.

The past four months, essentially, have seen me filled with anxiety, being truly overwhelmed with tasks, and feeling powerless and over-stressed while trying to plan things, organize things, attend things, and still find time to work at my second job so I can actually pay for things. In April 2014 our Wedding Savings Account for the September 2014 celebration had a balance of $25. Yes, the cost of two Big Mac combos at McDonalds would have wiped out our “savings”. That isn’t to say we don’t have a budget for the wedding ($1,000); we just don’t have the money to pay for that budget. Yet!

I expected a little bit of chaos and Bride Brain. What I did not expect – being the unemotional, logical robot that my beloved teases that I am – was the emotional toil that would occupy this process. Even though my “dream wedding” was not going to happen, I decided to still bring out my wedding book (circa 1994) and pursue through it. Some songs or ideas may still be salvageable, right?

And some of it is. Except when I look at the section with names and contact information for those intended to be on the guest list.

Now, I’m having a very small wedding ceremony at Town Hall, followed by a dinner with only family and 3 5 friends, so the guest list is a sliver of a fraction of what is listed in my book. Tiny sliver. Many people in that Guest section wouldn’t have been invited anyway. The emotional part was realizing that almost half of the noted intended guests are no longer living.

At the age of 18, for the first time, I lost a friend and attended a funeral for someone literally “in the prime of their life”. It devastated me. Each year since that, up to today, I’ve lost at least one friend or family member each year. Yes; EACH YEAR. One particularly horrible year in my early twenties, I attended five funerals, and only two for someone over the age of 25. Some have been from accidents; some from sudden illness; some from drawn out illness; some at their own hand; some at the hands of others, whether intentional or not; some after a long lifetime. Regardless of the cause, the end result is the same – the person is no longer with me.

Over the years, I have said goodbye to approximately 40 people, and I’m not even 45 yet. It’s probably the cause of my separation issues and aloof relationships with others. The more you engrain a person into your life and heart, the more it rips both to shreds when they disappear from it. It is the Circle of Life so I’ve been told, but I don’t need to like it at all. I carry the fear with me each and every day that someone will be leaving permanently. A palatable fear that shadows over all that I do, and it will not stop just because on a particular day I’m suppose to be happy.

On my wedding day, amongst the smiles and laughter, while celebrating the beginning of the journey for my new chapter in life, in my mind will be all the people who are not there to celebrate with me. Each of them is sorely missed. Their walks through the neighbourhood of life had their sidewalks end a little too soon for me.

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CAA pops up a good deal for its members

CAA has always been a customer-focused company, in my experience. Auto assistance is their core business, but they provide many extras to make membership worthwhile. Family fun at the theatres is more enjoyable for Mom and Dad when they save up to 24% by ordering Cineplex tickets online! You can look at their partners and special perks on this page.

CAA and Kernals Popcorn

Their latest offering is in partnerhip with Kernals Popcorn – the yummy popcorn company everyone seems to love. Now, CAA members can get a free upgrade to a large size when they pay for a medium. You can share the extra kernals, or keep the extra treat to yourself. Your call. I’m a big fan of their caramel popcorn and would probably keep it all to myself. Sometimes I’m selfish like that.

To locate a participating Kernals, search via the CAA promos page.

You can interact with CAA South Central Ontario on Twitter @CAASCO

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A Day for Superheros

There seems to be a day for everything: lovers, the dead, cupcakes (for animals), oranges & lemons, even phobias. It seems only suiting that there should be a day for the original and most common venue for Superheros – comic books.

Free Comic Book Day – the first Saturday in May each year – is when participating comic book shops across the globe give away specific comic books absolutely FREE to anyone who comes into their stores. It’s a great day of family-friendly fun for die-hard fans, as well as those just venturing into the genre. I definitely look for forward to it each year.

Who You Gonna Call?

Who You Gonna Call?

My local comic book store, Comic Book Addiction, goes all out for the day. There are costumed staff; contests and prizes for attendees; local artists selling wares and drawing custom art for “tips”; and free barbecue, popcorn and drinks. This year they have two new sponsors for the event which means there will also be free cupcakes and ice cream shakes. Yum! This year CBA will be running a small carnival area, with tickets for purchase, and giving all proceeds to local charities.

Last year, my daughter, her fiancée, a few of his family members and I were squinting in the sun and sweating in our long-sleeved shirts. Hopefully Mother Nature stops her freezing blasts over North America this weekend and let’s us have fun in a warming, winter-melting, sun.

Find a participating store near you and share with me some tales if you attend.

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How to be Productive When You Don’t Want to Get Up

Recently (is 6 months considered “recently”?) I’ve been plagued by either a lack of motivation or an abundance of laziness. If the adjectives were reversed, it wouldn’t be such a problem for me. In my mind, there are emails, letters, blog posts, telephone calls, conversations, activities, and aspirations that are fully thought-out and executed successfully – but none of them are put to paper, computer screen, or into action. I’ve been stuck in a rut trying to determine the cause. But perhaps that is the wrong way of thinking. Perhaps I should just accept that this is my personality for the next little while, and figure out ways to get beyond it, or how to work with it.

There are many ways for me to continue procrastitasking while still not addressing the important and critical tasks. There is only one way to break the cycle. What is that one method? Stop agreeing to my first response. Whatever my first thought is in response to a thought of what needs to be done, I need to ignore it and move onto the second one. The first thought is always something that takes me away from achieving the goal (such as Netflix binge-watching); the second is normally a little closer to being productive (hiding the iPad from myself).

A friend shared the following chart to show how very, very easy it is to find a second thought to replace the first unmotivated, inactive, procrastinating thought that pops into my head, or to ensure the environment is conducive to productivity. Hopefully it helps me, and helps you as well, if you need a shove in the right direction.

Let me know in the comments section what you do to stay motivated, on track, and moving towards that elusive CHECK on your To Do list. Another person’s perspective and idea is always great to learn.

How to be Productive

Source: Visually

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Twelve Reasons Why Homosexuals Shouldn’t Marry

You read the title and came here either because
A. you completely agree, or
B. you came to argue.

I think you’ll see which option you truly fall into when you get to the end of this post.

Stumbled across this while on Quora procrastinating from doing other important things. The poster provided a link to the source, but it is now a dead link.

Enjoy!

Twelve Reasons Why Homosexuals Shouldn’t Marry

  1. Homosexuality is not natural, much like eyeglasses, polyester, and birth control.
  2. Heterosexual marriages are valid because they produce children. Infertile couples and old people can’t legally get married because the world needs more children.
  3. Obviously, gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
  4. Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage is allowed, since Britney Spears’ 55-hour just-for-fun marriage was meaningful.
  5. Heterosexual marriage has been around a long time and hasn’t changed at all; women are property, blacks can’t marry whites, and divorce is illegal.
  6. Gay marriage should be decided by people, not the courts, because the majority-elected legislatures, not courts, have historically protected the rights of the minorities.
  7. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That’s why we have only one religion in America.
  8. Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
  9. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behaviour. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
  10. Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That’s why single parents are forbidden to raise children.
  11. Gay marriage will change the foundation of society. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and we could never adapt to new social norms because we haven’t adapted to things like cars or longer life spans.
  12. Civil unions, providing most of the same benefits as marriage with a different name are better, because a “separate but equal” institution is always constitutional. Separate schools for African-Americans worked just as well as separate marriages for gays and lesbians will.
    (And don’t forget the First Nation children’s schools! ~~Cathy)

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Aug 01 2014

Wedding Journey ~ Where the Sidewalk Ends

“Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam…And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva…So tweasure your wuv.” ~~ the Princess Bride

I’ve been fairly MIA online – my blog, Twitter, Facebook – for months for one reason only: I’m getting married on September 5th. …

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Jun 08 2014

CAA pops up a good deal for its members

CAA has always been a customer-focused company, in my experience. Auto assistance is their core business, but they provide many extras to make membership worthwhile. Family fun at the theatres is more enjoyable for Mom and Dad when they save up to 24% by ordering Cineplex tickets online! You can look at their partners and …

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May 01 2014

A Day for Superheros

There seems to be a day for everything: lovers, the dead, cupcakes (for animals), oranges & lemons, even phobias. It seems only suiting that there should be a day for the original and most common venue for Superheros – comic books.

Free Comic Book Day – the first Saturday in May each year – is …

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Permanent link to this article: http://cathyincanada.com/blog/2014/05/01/a-day-for-superheros/

Apr 29 2014

How to be Productive When You Don’t Want to Get Up

Recently (is 6 months considered “recently”?) I’ve been plagued by either a lack of motivation or an abundance of laziness. If the adjectives were reversed, it wouldn’t be such a problem for me. In my mind, there are emails, letters, blog posts, telephone calls, conversations, activities, and aspirations that are fully thought-out and executed successfully …

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Permanent link to this article: http://cathyincanada.com/blog/2014/04/29/how-to-be-productive-when-you-dont-want-to-get-up/

Apr 15 2014

Twelve Reasons Why Homosexuals Shouldn’t Marry

You read the title and came here either because
A. you completely agree, or
B. you came to argue.

I think you’ll see which option you truly fall into when you get to the end of this post.

Stumbled across this while on Quora procrastinating from doing other important things. The poster provided …

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Permanent link to this article: http://cathyincanada.com/blog/2014/04/15/twelve-reasons-why-homosexuals-shouldnt-marry/

Mar 03 2014

You write like a closed-minded perfectionist with low self-esteem

There are many, many days when I am not very productive. Today is one of those days. Below is something that helped me be a slacker this time around. Oh I love the Internet. Some many tidbits of knowledge and interesting things that allow me to pretend that I’m not really slacking off… just learning …

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Mar 01 2014

Where’s my .TAX file???

When I was 16 years old (in the good ol’ mid-80′s), I filed my first tax return. What did I know about taxes? Nothing. So I listened to my Mother (this is normally when things go wrong for me) and paid her accountant (I think it was $50) to do my taxes. I signed, dated, …

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Jan 27 2014

Forget Sex – Let’s Talk About Mental Health Baby

Mental illness affects all Canadians at some time, whether through a family member, friend or colleague, and 20% of Canadians will personally experience a mental illness in their lifetime. If it isn’t you, someone you know is dealing with depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, bipolar, or something else. And most likely they are hiding it from you, …

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Jan 07 2014

“Welcome to my Porn Site” aka I was hacked

Do you know the old adage ‘Time is money’ or the more recent ‘Being disorganized costs you money’? I’ve always believed these. In my experiences and observations in life, they are true.

I’ve seen or heard of people spending hours on a couch watching TV while stating they have no time to earn extra income; …

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Nov 19 2013

Where Am I Partying Tonight?

The Twitterverse is a busy, busy place. And on the nights that Twitter Chats are running, it can be too busy to keep up. Unless, of course, you forget that they are happening, and completely miss out. My brain is more like a sieve than a safe, so I began using a calendar to document …

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